They are couples who love attacking it (return on them, when you speak of the melodramas). We continue with our example. When the patient tells the therapist the last discussion, this gives account of that the patient is completely unaware of how with his attitude (tone of voice, gestures, looks, etc.), causes what fears, it is further and continue discussions with his wife, in an endless cycle. It is absolutely unable to integrate his self participating with his observant self. It is at this point, when the therapist pays his observant self. He says those aspects of his conduct (tone, looks, gestures, etc.), he has differentiated and who are to disqualify his wife they to react with greater anger yet, perpetuating the cycle of discussions and mutual mistreatment. Comprehensive brief psychotherapy planned, as I understand it and practical I, has a didactic component nothing despicable. Always try to teach to fish the patient and no fish I by him (this is one of the major perversion of psychotherapy).
I understand that the patient has to analyze to live and not live to be analysed. If do not teach you to fish, it would be a patient for life (patient scholarship) and that would be very lucrative, but highly unethical. Well, when the patient has developed or strengthened, through psychotherapy, his observant self, is that the therapist has been able to teach and convey their own I observer. In other words; my patient already know fishing or what is the same thing; the patient has already been to his own therapist inside, and that fact makes him a strong candidate to the high therapeutic. According to this latest, judge for yourselves whether or not is important of the observant self in therapy.